If you’re divorcing someone with narcissistic traits, you already know this isn’t going to be a typical separation.
Not all divorces are mutual or civil. Some come with chaos. With shouting matches and endless emails. With manipulation, control, or flat-out cruelty. These are the kinds of divorces that don’t just break your heart — they mess with your head. The ones where it feels like the drama never ends, no matter how hard you try to disengage.
There’s this quiet pressure that creeps in after divorce. “So... are you seeing anyone yet?” It comes from friends, family, even yourself. Like healing is only complete once you’ve coupled up again. Like dating is the final box to check to prove you’re “back.”
You’re not just letting go of a person. You’re letting go of a version of your life. A rhythm. A routine. A future you pictured. A family structure you thought would last. Even if you’re the one who wanted the divorce, there’s still grief. Even if you’re relieved, there’s still grief.